On anon but. I'm someone who has detransitioned. I just want to say that, I was on HRT for about a year. It changed my body in ways that I absolutely love. I have a deep voice, and sharper features, and I have new perspective on my identity and how it interacts with the world. Being trans is a journey. From when I was five up to when I was 17, I fullheartedly believed I was a boy. I was, in that moment. But now, I'm a girl, too. I feel better as a girl - prettier, comfortable. But when I was a boy, I felt good too - in that moment, I was handsome, and I felt so so strong. It's not as scary as it seems. People ebb and flow and change. You can be what you want to be, and if ultimately you want to go back? You can. Just don't discount your experience as a mistake. In the moment it felt right. In the present is what matters.. You'll reflect on it, and maybe you won't ever change. Maybe it'll be what sticks. And that's a lovely thing in and of itself. You will find the you that fits. You will become someone you love by letting yourself express. I promise. Holding back will just mute everything that makes you, you - don't feel like you need to medically transition, either. It was right for me, but research is key, in all things. You'll be beautiful no matter what. Your experiences will shape you - as long as you allow yourself the freedom of expression. I promise.
this is so beautiful. the word detransition does seem to have a negative connotation in certain spaces and im really happy to hear u sharing your positive experience.
its so important to stress that you can simply try it. and if it isnt for you, you can stop.
I want ADHD people and autistic people to have some kind of mutual outreach program. like, so many of our problems are adjacent but not exactly the same, so we develop different strategies to cope with them, and I just feel like we could all collectively get our shit together a little bit better if we had, like, a twin cities arrangement.
like, I (a person with ADHD) will teach a seminar on how exactly you are expected to lie in job interviews, complete with flowcharts and dialogue trees and trigger points for when eye contact is or is not necessary, if you (a person with autism) will teach a seminar I can go to right afterwards to explain how to actually organize the relentless deluge of information we’re taking in all the time and sort it into useful categories without my brain shutting down and needing to go play Stardew Valley for three hours
can those of us with both have like, a seminar on how you manage to navigate needing enough structure to collapse back on when everything is too much and also not so much structure that you rigid yourself right out of the entire activity?
someone tell the tumblerinas that you can raise an issue without deliberately guilt-tripping everyone about it
okay, I take it back. I don’t think everyone is doing this deliberately. some of it is so deeply entrenched in tumblr culture that you probably don’t always notice you’re doing it
“nobody’s talking about this” -> you can just delete this phrase
“if you can’t reblog this, unfollow me” -> you can also delete this one
“x group can, and should, reblog this” -> remove the “should”. or you know. delete the entire sentence
your post will still spread all the important information without the guilt-tripping parts, I promise
if an otherwise valid post tries to guilt trip me it’s a pass on the rb, sry.
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